Seems these days the teens are running in many different directions at once, from family to school, to dating and beyond. Many teens seem to spend less time doing the few chores they should. It?s hard on the working parents.
Most parents don?t ask for much, just pick up your mess and that?s it. Parents of today are awesome in that they too can relate to the rat race we all run. Often parents come home to the kids leaving their dinner plates in front of the television. They know exactly where they ate.
Breath deep parents, take time to eat your dinner too. The plate on the floor in front of the television is not going to attract rats. After you are done calmly call you teen to help you with something. Then calmly tell them to pick of their mess. By doing it together they see that you are now doing yours they will do theirs. By calmly asking for help at certain times and not a lot of yelling and frustration involved, the kids of today seem all to able to help. If you add a little sarcasm or anger in that you will get nothing done and then you will have a bad evening.
By relaying to them in a monotone voice that when you come home you are pooped and that having the plate in front of the television bothers you, that if they just took it to the kitchen would be a big help, is more effective than a long drawn out explosion.
Kids, teens these days seem to feed of that anger and throw it back at us. But the nicer you are and the more you bite your tongue when asking for help, you will note you get more done by your teen.